Maintaining Your Zen at the Fair

Maintaining Your Zen at the Fair

As a tried and true Minnesotan, our Minnesota State Fair is the sign that our Summer is officially coming to an end. These twelve days of “The Fair” are filled with conversations just about everywhere like: “Hey, are you going to the Fair this year? When do you like to go? What is your favorite food to eat? Where do you like to park? I hope the weather will hold for the Fair.” Needless to say, it is pretty much what is on the mind of many, if not most Minnesotans. Every year we have record breaking attendance from the year before, which means every trip to the Fair now means the traffic is worse, the lines longer for parking (if you can find a spot!), the lines longer for EVERYTHING. And really, what it also means is lots and lots of people. I mean, masses of humanity. For someone who struggles a bit with large crowds, it also signals the beginning of what I call “Fair Anxiety”.

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Stop Trying to Fix Yourself

Stop Trying to Fix Yourself

You are not toxic. You do not need a cleanse, or a detox. There is nothing wrong with you.

You are being sold a false premise. The “wellness” industry wants you to believe that you and your body are inherently dirty, filthy, unclean and definitely in need of some sort of process of eliminating all kinds of toxins. As a “wellness” professional and as someone who struggled over the years with orthorexia (the fear of eating anything that wasn’t deemed “clean” or “healthy”), these concepts can be incredibly unhealthy and even harmful. There are companies making billions of dollars off the premise of your perceived inability to detoxify. But really, what does that mean?

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Integration Station

What would it feel like to have your whole person integrated? We segregate our lives into sections that don’t give us the full picture of who we are. Our ego, our “I-ness” attaches itself to labels and limitations that were put in motion from childhood. How do we free ourselves from the stories that we believe define who we are?

Meditation. Yeah, you knew that was coming. Our sense organs can only do so much. We can see, touch, feel or think something (or multiple things) but is that really our true Self? These things change over time; our bodies, our likes and dislikes, our thoughts and beliefs, and we can only think about them with the limited mindset that we have at any given moment.

Connecting with the part of us that remains unchanged is the key to unwinding the identities that we create for ourselves. Once we have the experience of the Self that rests in the infinite, that is unchanging no matter what is happening around us, we can get a different perspective and view on what our Truth really is.

For most of us, our reality is a combination of our daily, stimulated life, and perhaps brief glimpses into our eternal, infinite realm of pure essence. Likely it’s more of the former and less of the latter.

Tantra teaches us that these two worlds are merging all the time. The integration of our spiritual world with our material world is one that can lead us towards more freedom and fulfillment. Neither realm is “good” or “bad”. There is a belief that everything is a manifestation of the Divine (you already knew that because there are dogs, avocados, and peanut butter). The point is, do your best to integrate the YOU that you know you are at the core of your being with the you that is out in the world every day. The more aligned they are, the more peaceful and fulfilled you will be.

In the meantime, keep meditating, and keep noticing the sunshine on your face, and the sound of the rain, and even the person that cut you off in traffic. They are all part of this beautiful web of life and integrating all of it is there for you at any time.

In your best health and with love,

Betsy

Parayoga – A Tantric Perspective

Parayoga – A Tantric Perspective

When most people hear the word tantra, they think of sex. While there is a branch of tantric practice that involves very detailed sexual practices, that is not the whole story and definitely not what this article is about. Let’s keep our clothes on while I give you a brief description of a completely different understanding of tantra and, more specifically, Parayoga.

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